Teenagers or we are more familiar with the term ABG (Anak Baru Gede), in this phase little by little they start socializing with the environment outside the house, mingle with many new people, new environment, which certainly will have a lot of influence on the pattern of thinking and their association. Teenagers feel they can choose something they feel good for themselves. In this time of course parents increasingly thinking in such a way as to keep the child who began to grow up so as not to be affected by negative associations that are not good for the future of children. Parents have a variety of ways to keep their children monitored even though parents can not at any time accompany the activities of children.
When children start to become teenagers, most parents will become over protective to the child. It can be justified this attitude because parents have an opinion with them to be protective to regulate the life of children, will make the child a good teenager. But parental over protective attitude sometimes becomes a discomfort for children. Not only feel uncomfortable, over protective attitude of parents also make children feel depressed. It would be unfavorable for a child to develop when the child is depressed with the situation and circumstances. They feel that his life is always restricted, not feeling given the opportunity to enjoy his teenage years. Most teenagers do not feel at home in a house full of pressure from their parents.
Parents are usually more restrictive of their children's activities outside the home. Such as extracurricular activities, socializing with peers, working groups and much more, because parents think that children can lie to ask permission to work groups, when they play to gather with their friends somewhere without doing any task. With a parent reinforcing a child, instead of making a child become a submissive, but the more in the reins the child will be more daring defiant.
If the child asks for his parents' permission, but the parent does not give permission, on the grounds that the parent does not want if his or her child is following an unimportant activity. Parents want their children to focus on studying rather than following activities that are not yet clear benefits. Though the child feels that the activities he is doing is an important activity and can have a positive effect on his life, then that is where children will more often dare to lie, because they feel it would always be useless to tell the truth if parents still will not give permission. For example, children prefer not to go home when they come home from school, because if they have gone home it will be difficult to ask permission to leave the house even if just hanging out with friends.
It is true that no parent wants a child to become a bad boy and is in the wrong society. But, maybe the way parents love their children who are different. As much as possible, treat teenagers as they should so that they do not grow into a generation of dissidents and opponents. For parents, keep an eye on friends but do not forbid children to socialize with their environment and peers. Advise children but not scold children when children make mistakes. Pay attention to the child, but not limit the positive activity of the child. Direct the child, but do not curb the child.
Limit the activity of children but do not prohibit children from following positive activities outside school. Give permission when the child really needs the permission of his parents to follow an activity because the child will be more comfortable in doing so. With reasonable treatment the child will be more able to have many friends, follow many activities and more easily socialize with the environment. Did not rule out the child will also be more achievement when parents are not over protective because children will be more free to create, innovate, beraktivitas and imagine.